I'm not the Mom

. . . and the baby knows it

Published on December 8, 2003 By ZubaZ In Home & Family

My thoughts this time of night seem to center around the youngest. It wasn't always this way. I remember being centered on my wife. Maybe when the kids move out.

Tonight's observation centers around the fact that the baby can come into the house in her mother's arms and flash a smile that could reboot a linux server. She giggles and coos and I am in love again. So I take her in my arms (the baby) and give her a smile in return.

And she cries. I check to see if she is dry. Check. Has she been fed? Yep. Burped? With spit-up! So everything is fine. It's just me; I'm not the Mom

Comments

GemCityJoe

on Dec 21, 2003

Cute one! GCJ

OccultPizza

on Dec 22, 2003

That is cute. I never had that problem with either of my children. My 11 year old boy clings to his mother now though. I try to get him to do "manly things" like mostly defy women ~chuckles~ but to no avail. My 2 year old little girl is a daddy's girl and has always wanted daddy over mommy. Much like dogs children are capable of feeling emotions and are supremely empathetic. Let's imagine that in your subconscious you are afraid you might hurt the baby inadvertantly, or that you are not confident with it. The baby picks up on the emotion to the thought and it scares the baby because it is using it's spider senses which alert it to impending disaster. The only outlet the baby has at this time is to cry. Think of a baby as a cold blooded reptile in the respect to empathy, if you are irritated the baby is irritated, if you are scared the baby is scared. The only way to transcend this is to try and match your subconscious thought patterns to your conscious ones because babies do not work on the conscious level yet.

Either way as the baby grows older the subconscious aspect of empathy will disappear and they will understand that Daddy is a great person ~winks~

ZubaZ

on Dec 22, 2003

This is my fourth child and my fourth girl. (there's a seperate blog entry!). I know what I'm doing (as much as any dad can know before his kids move out). And I din't have any of these issues with the other one's. I had other issues then, and other issues now. But then; I didn't blog. And the other issues with the other girls don't have the immediacy of a crying baby.

I know that this too, will pass. But right now . . . IT AIN"T PASSING FAST ENOUGH!

Time to go to my happy place and think happy thoughts.

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